Family and testaments, will

Question by amica Reward: 100 Pond Points + 10 Knowledge Tokens Status: Pending a resolution
I live in Usa for one year, i am from Italy. I married to a wonderful honest man that i love.He has four kids living around Usa( every kid has a succesful marriage,beautiful children, succesful jobs).My hubby married twice before,and his kids belong to his first marriage.His exwives are married again.I dont have any kids on my own,and this is my first and last marriage.Everytime we visit their kids i am who i am, for me isnt difficult to smile, to be polite, helpful.But i feel im not welcomed,when my husband asks them if they have a plan to do anytime we visit, they always say they are very busy, or always some of them has fever so we cant visit them.Even some of their kids never greet me, or act very rude whenever i appear.Should i talk about this with my husband? Or keep as i am doing, silencing everything and acting as this isnt hurting me.Also, my husband suggested we do a testament.In my testament, in case of death, i give for him the house i own in Italy. In his testament he divides the house where we live ( he bought it before marrying me), between I, and his kids and i have no problem with this, its my husband's wish so i want to respect it.According to the document i have the right to live whenever i wish in that house, and only be able to divide the money only if i decide to sell the house, so the money will be divided half for me, and half for all of the kids. I agree with it also.But some people in Usa tell me my husband is acting unfair specially since his kids can take away the house from me. I cant think that happen, anyway i dont want to think about things that may happen in death because i cant see myself without the man i love,and if this happens i would just come back to my country. But is it likely to happen his kids take me away from this propriety ,if i am in disgrace without my husband by my side?



Reply from martin User Rating:  180 Knowledge Tokens
I'm not a lawyer. You would not be in disgrace....that is something that "a Westerner" would not understand. Have you seen the document ? From what you've said, you have the right to live in the property after your husband's death....but the question is, if your husband has said that he wills half to you and half to his children (a) no one gets anything unless the property is sold, (b) he may have stated a wish that you are allowed to live in the house until it is sold, but would that be legally binding. You state that you would return to Italy and sell the house, so none of the above should be an issue, but if you do decide that you would want to stay, I would visit a lawyer (called an attorney in the US ?) once you know what is in the document....preferably with your husband. And I would share with him the feelings you have from his family...but that's a very personal thing and I think only you can decide that. I'd be very surprised if he hasn't noticed anything, from what you've said. Hope I've helped.
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