Someone really close to me i got to know was suffering from depression. He underwent the Electro-convulsive therapy. He is taking his anti-depressisants regularly. He used to be a quiet man but now he keeps shouting at me all the time and then he feels guilty about it. Then after 2 or 3 days he is happy and really happy and cheerful.I am 17 and he is 37. He is married and has 2 children but is always so so possesive about me and dosen't even like my talking to any man.I just know that one of his medicine is Zoloft Is this bipolar disorder?
It's strange but i think i love him..We have not been in any kind of sexual relationship but whenever we are alone, he tries to get close to me.Is it because of the nature of his disease and medicines that he gets irritated so soon..? I don't know....i am absolutely lonely... don't have anyone to speak to..
I keep thinking about him all the time... He once told me that there is no harm in having sex with your own boyfriend.Is there? I just couldn't say anything... I can't go out with friends because he hates that.. I am so helpless..
Yes i am from India. Alright then...he is my Botany teacher. He always tries to come close to me and he has a 100 ways in which he leaves me with no other option than to be with him when no one is around. He considers me as his girlfriend.. I met him today and he shouted at me for nothing..After coming back from the class i was really very upset.If i try to avoid him, he gets really angry and shouts at me. I always used to be a happy go lucky person but now i feel that this man has changed me completely... All my friends have gone jealous as now everyone is able to recognize his feelings for me.. So i have no one to share my feelings with.. But now i am scared..if he comes on to this link, he will make out that it's me.. That was why i wanted interaction at my i.d... I really need help and advise ...
I think he has completely forgotten the first 4/5 days after the ECT! At that time i used to take complete care of him.. Will he ever be able to recall those days? Anyway i don't know about these kind of legal measures till now.. But if he tries something out at me then i don't think i would be able to help it..
Ok then. Being very clear and totally frank... How the hell can i protect myself from a 20 years older man who wants to get into a sexual relationship. And the worst part is that i really care for him and whatever it may be i call it love. No i can't talk to his wife due to certain resons which i can't give out here.. I just can't do all that with HIM atleast.. I mean i have never thought that way. But now he is being extremely possesive about me and all my freedom has gone. It seems as though he is the master of my life now..
Dear Coffeebyte, Get out of this relationship ASAP. It is an abusive situation where you have lost your freedom to meet and talk with other people. Regardless of his condition , let his wife or doctor take care of him and as difficult it is for you now to end this relationship , you need to do it for your own good. It is also against the law for an older man to have a sexual relationship with a minor .Yes, he can go to prison for it if discovered. It is difficult and painful to get out of a relationship with someone that you have lots of feelings for and got used to, but you are a young woman now and you need to take responsibilities for your own happiness , since no one else does. He feels guilty and apologizes for his bad behavior but this is not good enough. You deserve better that a sick man cheating on his family. Please confide in a friend, a trusted teacher or a relative and get the help you will need to overcome ending this abusive relationship. As a last resort, call the police if he became too aggressive or scary. Zoloft ( Sertraline) is used to treat depression, obsessive-compulsive disorder, panic disorder, and anxiety disorder. Zoloft may also be prescribed for the treatment of bipolar disorder and other mental illnesses. http://bipolar.about.com/od/zoloft/a/zoloft_profile.htm
Do not let anyone abuse you. It will not get better with time .Take care of you and get out now, please!!
Irritability, anger, rage and mood swings may be part of mood diseases or chemical unbalance. So far he is possessive, does not let you talk with other men, unpleasant some of the time, abusive: most of those traits are part of his personality and you should not look for excuses for him and tolerate this behaviour. You are very lonely and you are very vulnerable to this older man and he is attracted to you. The feelings you have for this man are not going to bring anything but troubles in your life and his. This is not a healthy situation for you and you deserve better. It is time to try to make some friends and start to initiate conversations with younger people before you get in real troubles. A girl your age should go out with girls and boys and have a little fun and make some friends. It is not always easy, but for meeting people it takes sometimes a little planning and "work. Take good care of yourself. Some more info about bipolar http://bipolar.about.com/cs/sfx/a/sfx_zoloft.htm http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/register/?gclid=CMz4i-7Iz5ACFQGzGgodBhvtWQ
Dear coffebyte, I would like to know in which country you are in order to understand the norms in your society. Your English is great, better than mine. Your E-mail is in India and norms about sex and punishments are different in different countries. In the USA, an adult man can be put in prison if he has sex with a girl under age(18 years). Is this man a family member of yours? It would be better if you could avoid him because it looks like troubles. It seems that you are his prisoner. You need to not think about him and find a way to avoid any physical contact with him. I think that can be achieved if you avoid being alone with him in the room. Having physical contact with a married unpleasant man is a very bad choice for you and he cannot be a boyfriend of yours if he is married. I hope that there is a way for you to escape him and move to another place where you can be safer and meet people your age because now you are his prisoner mentally and physically . You have all my sympathy and you need to be strong and continue to seak help .I hope someone from India will respond to you because of a better understanding of the life there and your options.
make sure you are never in the room alone with him and tell your parents and it's a good thing that your amitting this a lot of people would be scared to admit it, if it's that bad you should call the cops
Dear coffeebyte, I am not sure what kind of help you need. Is it against your own feelings for him? In the States, one could complain to the school superintendent, a priest or a parent for help if the teacher makes advances or make you uncomfortable. Can you contact his wife for help? Can you stop taking the class before you get in trouble without affecting all your degrees? In some Moslem groups, there were cases where a girl was being stoned for having an affair or being raped by a married man. You need to get out of this situation which is not healthy for you and only you can figure out how to do it.
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