What goes on in a previously loving husband's mind during a mid-life crisis?

Question by bucketslogg Reward: 25 Pond Points + 10 Knowledge Tokens Status: Pending a resolution
I need to understand what I am dealing with -with what appears be my husband's mid life crisis, which he denies, but he's just turned 50 and I don't know him anymore. He has mood swings, sometimes cold, cruel, indifferent (never abusive) then loving and attentive again and many, many other things.. I love him dearly and am afraid I going lose him and I just don't have a clue what I am fighting here. He's rented an apartment and tells me its a step forward in our 15 year very happy marriage??!!! This is out of the blue and a total shock to me although his behaviour has been somewhat "off" for nearly a year. If some of you guys who have gone through this would fess up, I can at least know what my enemy looks like. There are no wrong answers. Thanks for any help.



Reply from zakoncrack User Rating:  0 Knowledge Tokens
Well I am sorry to hear your situation but it seems almost like what my parents are going through... they kinda been fighting a lot due to the death of my dad's mother... what they have been doing to make it through is to find things that bring them together... find activities that you both enjoy... try and not question him about it because it will only make it worse... i suggest spending time together when u can but dont push the limits he will need time alone to relax and gather himself together... also if that doesnt work try and get him to possibly go to therapy with you or some sort of marriage counseling... maybe go to the movies, or a romantic dinner, or set up a game night for him and his friends to drink and play poker or watch a football game... become truely interested in the things he enjoys... ie hobbys like working on cars or what ever it is that makes him happy... best wishes......... ZAK
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