stacy and her mom - stacy is driving me crazy so I am asking you for help

Question by lover454 Reward: 25 Pond Points + 10 Knowledge Tokens Status: Pending a resolution
BACKGROUND: Most of the time Stacy (54 years old) goes ALONE to the 99 cent store to buy the clothes. Sometimes she will go with her mom (in her 80s). When Stacy goes by herself she always comes home with the gorgeous stuff (items from Talbots, Old Navy, etc) and her mom loves the stuff that Stacy brings home. When Stacy goes with her mother her mother comments.

HERE ARE THE THINGS HER MOM SAYS WHEN THEY GO TOGETHER
(1) That is short, you dont like short
(2)Look it over to make sure it is in good condition
(3) I only told you that it didnt look good because you werent sure if you liked it or not
(4) Even though it is gorgeous I like the other one better if I was going to wear it
(5) I do love that turtleneck you picked out but thick turtlenecks bother me
(6) I only told you what I thought because you asked me if I liked it or not

HOWEVER, WHEN STACY GOES BY HERSELF THIS IS WHAT HER MOTHER SAYS WHEN STACY COMES HOME:
(1) I love what you got - I want it.
(2) I love that and I am going to take that from you
(3) Get me that

STACY AND HER MOM WILL SAY THE FOLLOWING WHEN THEY ARE AT THE 99 CENT STORE:
(1) Mom you always make comments which her mother replied: I am allowed to say something and I am allowed not to like something
(2) Mom I feel you would have said something about the ones you loved that I brought home if you had come with me on those outings here which her mother replied No I wouldnt have because they are beautiful. And it is your problem if you feel this way, not mine
(3) Her mother also says You really lack self-esteem


SO MY QUESTION: (1) DO you think Stacy is overreacting to the comments her mother makes; (2) DO you think Stacys mom would have made comments about the items Stacy brought home If her mom had gone with Stacy on those outings?

Stacy wants to write a letter to her mother because every time she tries to ask her mother what her mother meant her mother cries and says I dont feel well.


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Comment from RoamingInsomniac User Rating:  2070 Knowledge Tokens
You need to go to the doctor, and ask your doctor. He can help you get on the meds you need so you won't have to ask this stuff Over and Over and Over.

Comment from vivajeanable User Rating:  0 Knowledge Tokens
mother is just old and grumpy. My guess is that she probably doesn't feel well. Some people get real insecure when they age. You Stacie should ask her mom why she doesn't approve of her.

Comment from janegrubb User Rating:  50 Knowledge Tokens
Boy, what problems! I think of all the problems in the world and just want to cry. I think of Stacy and her Mom and I just laugh. If this is the only problem, Stacy and Mom need to count their blessings. I wish I had a grumpy Mom, mine was killed in a car accident at the age of 40. So I think some perspective is needed and maybe a visit to a psychiatrist/psychologist.


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